“Be self-reliant and your success is assured.” -Author Unknown
New Year, New Lies. No, I’m not pessimistic, nor realistic, just throwing something out there.
We like to make New Year Resolutions every year so that we can try to make this year better than the last. We know that it only lasts a few weeks for most people, and there are a few who stick it out a bit longer. But for the most part, it is forgotten amongst the other “more important” responsibilities that we impose upon ourselves. We think that work, children, eating, etc are more important than the things that we truly want for ourselves. I’m not talking about the material things, so don’t go buying a new car instead of saving for your child’s education fund! I’m talking about those personal things that we truly want to accomplish for ourselves.
Yours might be to lose weight, get a new job, be a more responsible person, stop lying so much, have more integrity, be a “better” girlfriend/boyfriend/son/daughter/parent, etc. Instead of making it a huge obstacle that needs to be overcome, realize that you’re already standing at the end of your goal. Think about what that new you would say/do/think/eat and become that person. We can change our mindset in an instant, and if we revert back to our old ways, we can just change it again. The mind is so powerful and we rarely use it for our own benefit.
If you want to lose 20 lbs. pretend that you’ve already accomplished it. Really feel the emotions and thoughts that you’d have, feel the confidence, and feel the energy. Then go do what you need to do (workout, eat well, etc). Take it slow, moment by moment. Don’t make such a big deal out of it. When we make it a big deal we put up a huge wall, and then we just give up because it’s too big of an obstacle. The truth is that when you are 20 lbs. lighter, you won’t eat crap food and you’ll feel like you need to go do some exercise in order to gain energy. That’s why you need to put yourself in that mindset before you work out and eat food.
If you want to stop lying so much, realize that you’re already someone of high integrity who understands that even the smallest of lies (no matter how much it might hurt someone’s feelings) is hurting you and the other person in the end. The first thing you need to do is become aware in the moment you’re telling that lie, then take back what you said and tell the truth. You think it might make you look bad, but it actually makes you look better. People are drawn to people with integrity, and even if they don’t like what they hear at first, they appreciate and respect you for who you are.
Whatever it is that you want to accomplish, put yourself in the mindset of someone who is already there. When you do this you will transport yourself to the other side of the huge wall that your subconscious is putting up to block you from accomplishing your goal. Why the mind does this I don’t know, but I do know that we can trick it to work in our favor, and it doesn’t take much effort at all. Practice makes perfect, and don’t worry…nobody’s watching 
I love it. Especially “integrity.” As with any change – i.e. our new resolutions – having integrity in doing what you say your going to do is the struggle. But it is so rewarding. The more and more you commit to telling the absolute truth, instead of searching for that little lie (or “stretching of the truth”) to avoid conflict or paint yourself in a better light, you find the truth coming out of your mouth immediately and effortlessly. No stress… no worry… and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, no regrets. Just straight forwardness.
The very same absence of stress, worry and regret follows your integrity with anything you “say” you want for your life. Integrity itself was actually my new years resolution. To take action with everything I’m committed to. To have discipline with what I’ve committed myself to do. I sleep better at night, figuratively and literally. Sooooo rewarding. Some accomplishments as a whole are not yet realized (Screenplays, books, goal weight, goal shape, etc), but the accomplishments every day leading toward them are very fulfilling and gratifying… those daily regiments and goals I’ve set out for myself in order to reach the final destination; i.e. – sticking firmly to the diet, exercise, time spent writing every day, etc.
I love it. Especially “integrity.” As with any change – i.e. our new resolutions – having integrity in doing what you say your going to do is the struggle. But it is so rewarding. The more and more you commit to telling the absolute truth, instead of searching for that little lie (or “stretching of the truth”) to avoid conflict or to paint yourself in a better light, you find the truth coming out of your mouth immediately and effortlessly. No stress… no worry… and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, no regrets. Just straight forwardness.
The very same absence of stress, worry and regret follows your integrity with anything you “say” you want for your life. Integrity itself was actually my new years resolution. To take action with everything I’m committed to. To have discipline with what I’ve committed myself to do. I sleep better at night, figuratively and literally. Sooooo rewarding. Some accomplishments as a whole are not yet realized (Screenplays, books, goal weight, goal shape, etc), but the accomplishments every day leading toward them are very fulfilling and gratifying… those daily regiments and goals I’ve set out for myself in order to reach the final destination; i.e. – sticking firmly to the diet, exercise, time spent writing every day, etc.
And other accomplishments are ongoing and realized every opportunity you have to be honest, to be kind, to have faith in yourself, to walk courageously and confidently through life as exactly who you are and hold nothing back, to make a difference in someone else’s life.